ADD Dude

Two of Our Least Favorite Words Two of our least favorite words have to be “pay attention”. First of all, someone is likely speaking to you, which means your mind went for a little hike. Or someone was telling you something for the 3 rd or 4th time, and he or she wants it to stick. Sometimes, my wife Vicki says, “this is the last time I’m going to tell you…” That phrase definitely gets my attention. It used to bug me. But I now see that she expects good listening. When I say something, I expect good listening too. Don't you? I want to take a stand for being a good listener. When I check out from a conversation it can appear leaky and irresponsible . Stephen Covey (see Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) emphasizes the importance of seeking understanding before being understood. To do that, we need to focus. Otherwise, we are making withdrawals from an emotional bank account. That is not good for a relationship, or one’s integrity. Occasionally we al

Need I tell you that we ADD folks are not the best time managers on the planet? Indeed, speaking for myself, I always seem to be the last one out the door. My wallet mysteriously moves itself, and my keys wander away all by themselves. I never turned in a school assignment early. Ever. Know that people in your life are waiting for you to finish things. Your wife or girlfriend is waiting for you to pick up the mail, go to the store, take books back to the library, or massage her feet. There are perfectly valid reasons you have putting off your next dental exam. Again. In order to make amends for those times where our friends, family or coworkers have waited for you, I propose that you declare a "No Waiting Day". And the sooner the better. It works like this: MUR: "Vicki, I'm declaring a "no waiting day". Anything you want me to do comes first. Anything you need you need me to do goes to the top of my list. And I will do it right away." VIC: &quo